Q. My daughter is legally married but her husband abandoned her and three kids who at the time were 4, 6 and 8. Now they are in their 20s. My daughter died two years ago and the kids received notice of a retirement plan. I called the company and was told the money goes to the husband as they are legally married, and he says he won’t give the money to the kids. Is there any option give that he abandoned the kids? — Grandma A. We’re very sorry for your loss, and we’re glad you’re trying to help your grandchildren, Unfortunately, unless the children’s father decides to give the money to them, the…