DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am in my 70s and have known some of my friends a long, long time. The problems of old age are starting to creep up on us. Some are now widows, some no longer drive and some are getting forgetful. Last week, one friend called to plan an outing that would exclude one couple because the husband, frankly, now requires help and is no longer fun. Friend A made it clear that I was not to tell Couple B about this outing. I know they would be crushed if they knew about it, because we have done things together for many years. So do I go on the outing and stay in the group, at least …
